For those of you that make excuses every single day, as many reasons as possible NOT to hit your personal training session … Just take a minute and realize how SOFT you’re being. You want those hard body armor six packs, long term baby, never out of shape. You want your ‘others’ to think you are always ripped up. Any old opportunity will do for you to take your shirt off so ‘they’ can give you a look, and validate you somehow. But you just want that small bag of Doritos and the Hot Chocolate at the pump a little more (like RIGHT NOW) & In Your Grill.
Oh, no not today? You made a s.m.a.r.t. goal for yourself, huh? “there’s a hush over the crowd”
What’s the one thing that you say to yourself at that point, when you just gotta have the chips, it’s not that big of deal? Or what, do you tell yourself you will only have a little bit because you haven’t had anything else to eat yet. Or how will you get out of this training session without your workout partners giving you too much guff?
Momentum for a cheat is on the rise.
For me, I’ll say something to myself like, “Shoot, I’ll work extra hard next workout, besides, it ain’t like anyone can keep up with me in the gym anyways, OR but that’s my favorite, OR that’s what I always get, OR, nobody will know, OR, I had a really good day, OR, I had a really rough day, OR, it’s his birthday and that never happens, its not like I do this everyday, OR, I wasn’t ON IT yesterday anyways, no big deal if I cheat today too, OR, I’m gorgeous even without abs.”
I’m serious, that’s what I tell myself and it’s a wrapper with a king size candy bar or a bag of chips and a hot chocolate or if it’s late on a weekend and I’ve been enjoying too much Green Almighty, it’s most likely all 3.
Some days I’ll even laugh it off when I eat some crap food, I’ll pop up and question my own burning desire for six pack dreams mid-mastication. You know the laugh, it’s the one when you’re caught up, that while you’re trying to come up with the story, you’ve already told on yourself with your face, but it’s all you can do to cheese.
Lack of conviction and SOFT.
I had a football coach who used to scream “SOFT”, and all kinds of expletives to describe the amount of soft he saw, throughout practice and film and weights and study hall and team meetings. It’s still a big team joke today to laugh about how often this coach said the word “soft”.
I’m sure my clients recognize the term that I use now.
<Really funny thing, for just a second imagine this joke that I’m enjoying, as I gently canter “soft amount of weight” to my 50ish year young, church going, homeschooling mother of 2, BUT what I’m really thinking is “that $#!* is so F$%^ing soft” like my coach used to yell at me.
Football was a real love for me. Love and Hate.
Before practice from like 6 or 7 or whatever time it was that day that I had to be up until 3 pm, when practice started, I would constantly be considering the 11hundred ways that I could p-o-s-s-i-b-l-y get out of practice that day. I’m sure if it was like that for me, than it was damned sure it’s like that for others. I was team captain and only missed one practice, one time for an emergency dentist appointment. But yea, every day 11Hundred ideas to get out of it. I even kept a few excuses in my back pocket that Coach would have to respect, and could never condemn as soft.
Do you? Do you use them? I figured out that I didn’t ever want to disappoint Coach like that. I didn’t want to be SOFT no matter what. For me that motivation worked and nobody ever had more fun during practice than me. Once I got there I was golden.
Most other things, when I stick it out, and keep my integrity to myself intact, it’s because I’ve included someone else in my intentions to complete a process that would be difficult to adhere to without their support. Usually, I’ll include my girlfriend, that I would never want to lie to or someone of significance in my life whom I want to impress.
However, now I’m questioning whether this is the optimal motivation. I’m learning to view that as extrinsic motivation or as something that is outside myself that I am using as motivation. Yea buddy, I even read a couple books and I’m working to develop intrinsic motivators and choose to occupy my time with projects that matter to me so much inside, that I choose to see the thing through no matter what.
I suppose there’s nothing wrong with extrinsic motivators, especially if they work, like getting my ass to football practice, every single day after however many 11hundred excuses before thousands of practices producing trillions of excuses over the course of a college football career. Shit, when I put it like that I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.
The reason that I’m still working to make the switch though, is for one thing. I’ve chosen to reach beyond outside motivators like other people’s opinions of me, and things. I want my main food group of influence, in my life, to be grown from the dreams and vision in my heart. I believe that’s the real harvest there. Like my love for football. And Ashika. And my mentors, coaches, teammates and family that supported my dreams and helped build me up in so many ways.
Like these abilities to read books. What are some of your intrinsic motivators?
We’re scouring the ‘Empowered Program’ Lab to ascertain the resounding principles found amongst the successful clients; & we’re pooling together all of the ‘reasons why’ that motivated the best bodies and health transformations within our membership. We’re going to combine these motivations with the grand-daddy fortress of accountability, ABS to form pillars to success.
In writing this I’ve also decided to include a list of my favorite excuses coming from you softer clients over the last two years. Be sure to check out the next post, it’s gonna be excusingly hillarious, packed with powerful pillars to success and the newly blessed, ABS.